Thursday, May 1, 2014

We Survived!!

     My roommate Kathleen and I had decided that it was time for another visit down to Malumghat... for a small break from Bangla studies and city heat and traffic noise. And we were able to use the excuse that we "wanted to go to the nursing school graduation this weekend." Especially since some of these graduates will be nurses with whom I am working in a few months.

     However, when we tried to make transportation arrangements, all of our attempts to "bum a ride" fell through. We were left with the options that required we PAY! Oh, dear. We were not keen on the idea of calling the taxi driver again -- since he had to drive both TO and FROM Malumghat to pick us up, that ended up costing around fifty dollars!! So, we decided to brave the Bangladeshi public transportation system... sort of. 

     Since this was the first time we had decided to travel by bus, I put off the process as long as possible! It ended up that all we had to do to get our tickets was give our names and the dates we wanted to travel to the guys who work in the office. I think they may have had to actually go to the ticketing office of the Green Line Bus company to make the purchase. Whatever the case, our tickets were ready for us to pick up next day. When I mentioned our travel plans to our cook, he was very concerned that all the arrangements were made correctly and that we knew where to go and what to expect. He takes such good care of us!

     Today we were packed and ready to go in plenty of time to get to the station. When we got downstairs, we discovered that our cook had not gone home yet and was manning the front gate for a few minutes. He offered to hail a baby-taxi for us, and then loaded our bags and gave our driver detailed instructions regarding where to drop us off. I guess they weren't quite detailed enough, though. When we arrived at the "bus station" part of town, the driver started to glance questioningly at us, where did we want to be dropped off. Thanking God for some signs being in English, we chose the first "Green Line" storefront that we saw. Oops! Inside, the man at the desk glanced at our tickets and told us we needed to go further down the street. I suspect that was the purchasing office or some such. When the poor man saw my bewildered look, he sent an employee with us show us where the other office was.

     It was a good thing, too!! A slightly built Bangladeshi young man led the way down the sidewalk (I use that term loosely...), with these two "bideshi" girls following, hefting our small but quickly-growing-heavier suitcases. Rolling them was NOT an option as we shifted from sidewalk to street and back, dodging coffee-table-sized holes in the pavement, rickshaws, baby-taxies, and other pedestrians. It was far enough to the station waiting room that we realized we probably never would have found it on our own. Once we arrived though, the young man glanced at our tickets and told us to take a seat. We were in plenty of time. 

     The waiting room was spacious and air conditioned, with floor-to-ceiling windows all along the front. We chose a short section of seats along one side, from which we could people-watch and talk without being joined by any... overly-enthusiastic-and-friendly men. After about thirty minutes, an employee made an announcement over the loudspeakers... in Bangla. We were able to catch the bus number and the destination -- it was ours. Following the crowd outside, we dropped off our luggage to be stowed under the bus (I had been assured it was safe on this quality of bus line) and found our seats inside. 

     Now, let me explain... this was NOT a run-of-the-mill Bangladeshi bus. As with many things in Bangladesh, buses come in shapes, sizes, comfort, and prices to suit everyone. This type of bus is what is widely known here as an "A/C bus", meaning air-conditioned. Since the temps this week have been hovering around 100 every afternoon, and since it was our first time, we opted for this type. As far as we could tell, we were the only foreigners on the bus -- there were a few well-dressed ladies and many businessmen. These are the strata of Bangladeshi's who can afford this mode of travel. Our driver was a quite thin man with a "scraggly" beard, wearing a turban. There were also two young men with him: one seemed to be a "steward" of sorts, able to speak some English and whose job it was to facilitate the needs of the passengers. His white button-down shirt and black jeans looked like he had stepped out of a fashion magazine! His co-hort was a few years younger (probably late teens), and seemed to be an assistant and particularly involved in managing luggage. 

     As soon as we got underway, the steward began to make the rounds collecting tickets, and asked if we were going to the final destination of this bus-run -- Cox's Bazar. I'm not sure if he suspected we would need to get off early, or if wanted to make sure we were on the right bus. Nevertheless, once we explained that we needed to get off early, he nodded and moved on to take care of the rest of the bus passengers. And that's the last we heard from him for a while...

     Our driver was amazing, I have to say. This bus was a normal, comfortable-by-any-standards bus. It had two seats on either side, and an aisle between. There were probably twenty rows. And this man was driving through Chittagong rush-hour traffic!! I know that he maneuvered several times within 3-6 inches of concrete barriers and other vehicles. At one point I saw him stick his head out the window so he could see better whether he had room to squeeze by! In and out he wove, blasting his horn at irregular and mind-grating intervals.
   
     Once we got out of town, we settled into the rhythm of traffic here in Bangladesh. I cannot take time here to try to explain traffic here to you. Suffice it to say that I get motion-sick if I do anything other than watch the road. And that once you experience it, you understand why it takes 3-5 hours to travel the 50 miles from Chittagong to Malumghat. Anyway, we spent our time chatting and laughing, as girls are wont to do. Until about one hour into our trip, the bus pulled off the road and passengers began to get down. Now, we weren't anywhere in particular. There were a few very primitive shops nearby, but nothing that would attract over half of our fellow passengers! We decided to take our cue from the ladies sitting in front of us, until a man asked if we needed help. We told him we were just wondering if we were supposed to get down, to which he replied that they had stopped for the evening Islamic prayers at the nearby mosque. Fifteen minutes or so later, everyone had re-boarded the bus and we were on our way again.

     As the time drifted by, we alternated between sipping water and sharing snacks, talking about this-and-that, and fretting that the "steward" had forgotten where we were supposed to get off. Without road-signs stating how many miles it is to a destination, all we had to go on was our memories (foggy at best) and the time. When they made a twenty minute stop at a rest station we had been to before, we knew we were almost there. We climbed down from the frigid bus interior, where they had had the A/C going full-blast, into the still 90-degree-plus and humid night. As we thawed and waited on our fellow passengers, we couldn't help but laugh at the condensation that was streaming down every window around the bus!

     Eagerly, we watched every landmark of this last stretch, several times SURE that we had missed our stop. Instead, the bus began to slow and Kathleen could overhear the steward tell the driver something about "bideshis" (foreigners) and "the hospital". As soon as the bus had stopped, he stepped back to tell us this was our stop -- just alongside the road, nothing official about it! -- and then he and his assistant helped us find and extricate our bags. As the bus pulled away, we had only to cross the street and hike up the long drive of the hospital compound -- a welcome task as we thawed and stretched. Yep, we'll be doing that again. This is the way to travel!

** Approximate price of a one-way ticket, fifty miles: $8.50. Bus left slightly late, but even with the stop, made the trip in just over 4 hours. Even if you leave super-early, it takes 2 1/2 to 3 hours in a private car.

 *** Pics below we're actually taken on our return trip. The bus was quite modern, though perhaps not in the best repair. I was amused when I noticed that they had rigged the horn similar to an "easy button", but that the speedometer didn't work at all!! Yep, this is Bangladesh.


Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Today’s Rickshaw Ride ...

Chittagong traffic flows all around me, literally filling every available space. I rest comfortably on the rickshaw seat, enjoying the privacy and relative coolness provided by the raised sun-shade. Still, I am conscious that I must keep my foot wedged against the driver’s seat support, one hand clutching whatever bit of frame I can find, and my body prepared for a sudden jolt from behind that could knock me from my perch into the river of vehicles.  
A few weeks ago, I read an article that prompted me to study how Bangla ladies ride in rickshaws. Since then, I try to sit demurely, with my book-bag held tightly to my lap. I cannot convince myself to let go my clutch of the rickshaw frame, but I’ve seen a few ladies holding on – maybe I don’t stand out too much.
Some days I’m able to fool myself better than others – that perhaps with my sunglasses on and my dark hair, I don’t stand out as a “bideshi” (foreigner) very much. Maybe the problem today is that we are inching through traffic. Twice, a passing man has spotted me and called out “Hello! How are you?” I know this is likely the only English phrase he knows, and that it is fine for me not to acknowledge him. Still, that it has even happened tells me that I’m standing out some!
My rickshaw-walla (driver) is especially polite today. He has agreed to drive me from school to the area where my home is for 20 taka – about 25 cents US. He is not only careful to avoid whatever sudden stops and bumps he can, but he also allows other vehicles to slide into the flow of traffic. This is unusual – most drivers simply squeeze into any opening, making their own “hole” if they believe the larger vehicle has time to stop. They could drive for NASCAR!!
One benefit of the “jam” today is that I am going slow (or sitting still) enough to observe many things:
·        The bare feet of the “van-gari” men – they transport heavy loads on flatbed carts, one man pulling out in front, and one pushing from behind.
 
 
 
·        The open-bed truck which is piled only a foot or so higher than the rails – it must be a heavy load, or they would have piled it much higher!! Still, one man is perched on top of the bags. It’s probably cooler than being packed into the narrow truck cab with 3 or 4 other men!
·        I spot a couple in a passing rickshaw, the lady holding a tiny baby.
·        Another family is riding a rickshaw home from picking up their daughter from school. Still wearing her uniform, she sits on her mother’s lap and leans back to take a nap.
·        The policeman who is directing traffic at the intersection (there are hardly any traffic lights, and people don’t pay attention to them anyway!) is holding a black umbrella. Ah, yes! Even just a little shade from the tropical sun makes such a difference.
·        The smell isn’t too awfully bad today – more just the smell of humanity and traffic than the smell of dried fish that tortured us yesterday! Except for the trash-truck that passes me. I’ll just hold my breath for a minute…
I wish I could take video and pictures of all of this for you, but to pull out my phone or camera would draw attention, and could potentially make me a target for thieves. So I offer only these recollections…
As we approach the side-road that leads to my apartment building, I catch the driver’s attention: “Brother, please turn right at that road.” The exact Bangla words I say every day…
“That one?” he replies, gesturing with his chin.
“Yes, that one,” I affirm.
Here, near home, stores and other landmarks are familiar – the pharmacy shop where one of the guard’s sons works, the food-stand where that same guard sometimes “hangs out”, the traffic circle ahead that marks my arrival at home.
“A little to the left, at the blue gate I’ll get down,” I explain. As the gate comes into view, I add, “That blue gate.” It always seems to sneak up on them, for some reason. Once he has the rickshaw stopped, the driver gets off so that I can use his seat as a handhold while I descend. I hand him a little more than he had asked for; these guys work hard and I very much appreciate his courteous service. “Dhonobad,” I thank him as I head in the gate.
One of my favorite guards (OK, they’re all my favorite!) answers my knock and opens the small door in the much wider gate for me to enter. I greet him, check on his daughter who has been sick, and then head upstairs for lunch and to check on my roommate. How odd that this has become normal life for me…

Thursday, March 27, 2014

First Ride in a Rickshaw - from Sept. 2013

Ride in a Rickshaw
        With the reassurance of my teammate, Tom – today, my tour guide – I clamber up into the seat of a colorful rickshaw. Our driver, a young man of 20-odd, is wearing a “lungi” (a large loop of cloth which is gathered and tucked in the front, looking like a skirt) and a button-down shirt. I notice that most of the rickshaw “wallas” are young. And then I learn why! As the seemingly-fragile metal carriage/bicycle combo gains speed, Tom shares with me that the average rickshaw is about 400 lbs, without passengers. The calves of our driver bulge as he pedals, often having to put his entire weight on one pedal to get us moving again. If he can get some speed up, the ride is bumpy, but our driver can relax a bit. But in the “bumper-to-bumper” traffic of Chittagong, he spends most of his time braking and waiting for traffic to start moving again, braking to avoid the larger vehicle that just pulled in front of us, braking to avoid the pedestrian who holds his hand out to stop the tide of traffic, or turning this way and that to maneuver between the hundreds of other rickshaws, etc. that clog the roadway.
        I am reminded of a waterway in a storm. The water swirls around and over and between whatever obstacle it finds, somehow always moving, despite everything. The traffic here is like that. One is thankful for the rare police officer who directs the traffic of a major intersection. But sometimes, when no officer is there, some man will abandon his vehicle (whatever type it happens to be), and direct traffic himself until the snag is fixed and flowing again. The trick here is to, quite literally, “hold on for the ride”!!
One of the most amazing things about living overseas is what becomes normal.

When I was in Africa, I remember realizing that it was no longer shocking to hear friends talking about their co-wife -- that two women lived next-door to each other, sharing a husband and household responsibilities, became normal. Teenage girls took it for granted that they would probably have/be a co-wife... and I took it for granted for them.

Here, the list of what was exotic a mere six months ago, but has now become "normal" extends every day. Here are a few things that come to mind:

* Rickshaw rides -- I love rickshaws! But the advent of "motor-rickshaws" in Chittagong traffic provides a ride that I can only compare to an old, wooden rollercoaster... without safety bars!
* Not making eye-contact with men -- While probably less than 20% of the women here wear burquas, I heard someone describe how a woman must walk down the street here as "wearing a mental burqua". In this culture, making eye-contact with a man sends a social signal that you are interested. So you quickly learn to walk purposefully, but looking at people only with your peripheral vision. Actually, I love wearing my sunglasses -- they let me keep facing ahead, and yet be staring at something slightly to the side. What's weird now is trying to talk to AMERICAN men and to remember that I need to make eye contact!
* Stomach-bugs & Exotic diseases -- Living in the tropics provides the opportunity to experience diseases you've only HEARD of in the US. Things like malaria and typhoid, cholera and mumps. Things that completely justify the hundreds of dollars of vaccines that we get before we head out. Any given stomach bug might just be "food-poisoning" that you picked up along the way, or it might be something "fun"! The rule of thumb is to drink ORS and wait 3 days before freaking out. Ahhhh, I wonder what exciting disease I will catch first?
* Drinking only boiled/bottled water -- The best way to avoid the aforementioned stomach-bugs is to be VERY  careful what water you drink. Especially as a foreigner, our stomachs aren't used to the "bugs" in the water here. Plus, I tend to not want to leave home if I'm sick...
* Interesting clothes -- Here in Bangladesh, the culturally appropriate thing for women to wear is either a shari (you turn 18 feet of fabric into a dress -- check it out on Youtube) or what is called a shalwar-kamiz. The latter consists of loose-fitting pants and a tunic-length top. Within a few short months, I've adapted enough that I feel indecent if the top does not reach my knees when I'm standing!! Also, ladies do not go out without an orna, a lightweight scarf that is used to ... well, conceal the curves. Within a month or two, I found myself reaching for my orna whenever I headed out the door, or even when our cook showed up.
* Having a cook -- More on this later, but having a cook/housekeeper is AMAZING! He was out of town for a week a few months ago, and we got to do it all ourselves. Granted, it's just food and laundry, and cleaning a small apartment, but it was amazing how much time it takes here. At first it was weird, especially having a man in the apartment. But days like today -- when I forgot that we had signed up to provide snacks for a class at the school -- it was so nice and so very convenient to have him make cookies and then deliver them. OK, so it's still a little weird...
* Staring -- While in the US, we're taught from a very young age "Don't stare - it's rude", that is not the case here. Many things are considered bad manners here -- touching someone with your foot, handing something with your left hand, being "familiar" by using the wrong form of address. But staring at someone is not considered rude. And we stand out. So we get stared at. Some days, it gets on your nerves. But on the up-side, it's not rude to stare at them either!
* Electricity woes -- Due to the rapidly exploding population of Chittagong, electricity is cut off to different part of the city sporadically. And I mean, it's completely unpredictable, other than I think it's more frequent during the hotter seasons. The electricity can go off at any time of the day or night. It can stay off for a few minutes, a few hours, or all day. Those who can afford it have a generator or battery backup to keep some lights and fans working in the building. Those who can't "deal with it".

Well, that's a brief glimpse at a few things that are different here in Bangladesh. God has made us wonderfully adaptable, for which I am so thankful. At the same time, there are days when one small thing that has hardly bothered me for months suddenly drives me crazy!!! So keep me (and anyone else you know working overseas) in your prayers.

Monday, September 23, 2013

Filthy, Precioius Vagabonds...

     Saturday night, a group of us went shopping at one of the local malls. They're not that different than American malls, I guess. A multi-storied building houses a hundred or more shops where you can buy all sort of goods. Ready-made clothing stores are concentrated in one area. Cloth stores in another. Kitchen-type stores on the opposite side. Shari (the gorgeous national dress) stops display their sparkling wares as I pass. As we near the exit, several beggar-children find us. We stick out! Six white women in this land of mocha-icecream colors.
     A young girl grabs my hand. I'm torn; part of me wants to pull away from the filthy little hands, while another part wants to love and wash and care for her. I think of Katie Davis (of "Kisses From Katie" fame). This little girl, in her bloomers and NOTHING else (!!) probably has parents. I don't understand her words, but I know she is asking for money. Oh, I caught that one! "Two taka?" she asks. The only thing that keeps me from reaching for my wallet for that paltry sum (about 3 cents) is assurances by my teammates that someone is watching who will take the money from her. I recall Jesus' saying "Suffer the little children...", and I am torn.
     It's easiest to ignore them. Literally, IGNORE them! That's what one does with beggars here. It's such a complex problem, which I don't understand yet, and may NEVER understand! But I know that she is precious in His sight... Whether she has parents to go home to. Whether her hands had found their way into my purse (I feared it, but it didn't happen). Whether she grows up to be a mother of more little beggars.
     We finally disentangle ourselves from the small entourage that is following us, and pile into the van to head home. Our "shopping guide/translator" for the evening tells us that they always hang onto us more than onto their own countrymen. They know WE won't hit them. Or spit on them. And that is a possibility with others. We're nice to them, so they follow us. Is part of it just that they're starved for attention? I want to cry...
     The next day, I was reading Mark 9, and am reminded of my encounter with the children here. I can't help but wonder if the children who prompted the disciples' complaints were like these. Bored... Lonely... Starving and starved for attention... Ironically, the passage I was thinking of is right there in chapter 10 --
     "And they were bringing children to Him so that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked them. But when Jesus saw this, He was indignant and said to them, 'Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.' And He took them in His arms and began blessing them, laying His hands on them." (Mark 10:13-16, NASB)
     OK, so it sounds like these kids had parents. But I can't help if one or two snuck in... just a couple of filthy, precious vagabonds...

Please pray for me...